The Hard Part of Loving Mercy

Imagine living in absolute squalor and forging for food for each meal. Our teen moms at the maternity home know this experience well. And while they live and sleep in a warm, safe place with full stomachs and healthy babies, they worry constantly about the siblings, single moms and aunties they left behind. While most of our girls don't have a traditional family unit, they have loved ones that live in unthinkable situations.

Part of our vision at Mercy House is not only to see total transformation of each mother, it's also to help provide a stable situation for them to return to, if possible. While some of our girls do not have a home or support system, several do and as a part of reintegration, we want to offer help where we can through home visitations, counseling, parent training, development and aid in the most severe cases.

Objectives of Home Visits:

  •  Familiarize with the environment where the residents come from and where they are to graduate to.
  • Share growth and development of the resident and baby and also get to hear about the family.
  •  Sharing the word of God as we have been commissioned to go out and share the good news of hope with others.
  •  Share prayer requests and pray together.
  •  Discuss business and re-integration plans with the parents/caregivers.
  •  Reminder about the parents visitation day to be held on February 16, 2013 at RHRC.
  •  Give food relief to the families.

Recently when Maureen visited the USA, part of the planning with Kristen concerned how to help each family. After much prayer and conversation, they both felt led to offer each family (where possible) a cow, food relief at the home visits and a micro loan to help start a small business. Families will be counseled and helped thru this process closely (money will not be given, rather supplies on loan to help with a family business). Research shows loans rather than aid are better in the long run.

Maurren traveled a great distance to visit most of the girl's homes or support systems and from Maureen's report, she highlights the positive aspects of the visits.

Communication: The quality of communication was positive, understandable, and respectful among all members at all levels of the partnership. The quantity of communication was also at a level to enable efficient and effective coordination and understanding among all members.

Commitment: Both parties had a sense of assurance about (a) each other's devotion and loyalty to the girl, baby and family, and (b) each other's belief in the importance of the goals being pursued on behalf of the girl, baby and family.

Equality: The members of the partnership felt a sense of equity in decision making and service implementation, and actively work to ensure that all other members of the partnership feel equally powerful in their ability to influence outcomes for girl and baby.

Trust: The members of the partnership shared a sense of assurance about the reliability or dependability of the character, ability, strength, or truth of the other members of the partnership.

Respect: The members of the partnership regarded each other with esteem and demonstrated that esteem in their communications with one another.

There were some very disturbing and unsettling discoveries also. One family has been terrorized by a drunk, violent and abusive father. It was immediately determined that this specific family needed attention and we offered help in order to save the lives of innocent children in the home.

We often don't have answers and have not been promised an easy road, and as we love mercy to the least of these, it gets harder before it gets better. Please pray not only for our moms and babies, but also for their families and the young siblings left in the wake of unfathomable poverty and the dangers that come with this kind of life. Pray for wisdom and safety for our staff and for provision as we begin to spread open the umbrella of care that reaches far beyond a pregant girl and her baby.